When someone we care about is struggling, it is natural to worry about saying the wrong thing. The good news is that you do not need special training to help. Most of the time, what matters is that you show up.
1. Notice and reach out
Has your friend become quieter, more irritable or withdrawn? Have they stopped doing things they used to enjoy? Trust your instinct and check in. A simple "I have noticed you seem down lately. How are you really doing?" can open the door.
2. Listen more than you speak
You do not have to fix their problems. Give them your full attention, let them finish, and avoid jumping in with advice. Sometimes being heard is the most powerful help of all.
3. Take their feelings seriously
Avoid phrases like "just be positive" or "others have it worse". Instead, try "That sounds really hard" or "Thank you for telling me".
4. Encourage them to get support
Gently suggest they speak to a trusted adult, teacher, counsellor or health worker. Offer to go with them if that would help.
5. Look after yourself too
Supporting someone can be heavy. Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling, and remember that you are not responsible for solving everything.
If your friend talks about ending their life or seems unsafe, please do not keep it to yourself. Stay close to them and gently involve a trusted adult, a health worker or the nearest health facility as soon as you can.
